Parents, father and mother, practice several styles in raising their children, each of which leads to personal and behavioral results that generally agree in their manifestations with the nature of the parenting style they adopt.
The fair democratic style is considered the most balanced and effective parenting style in raising children and the healthy family relationship with them. In it, parents adopt the following behaviors:
1- Dealing with children with human interest and objectivity, considering their needs and their behavioral performance of what is required.
2- Understanding children’s needs and trying to respond to them without excess or deficiency.
3- Flexibility and innovation in the methods, styles and positions of dealing with children, evaluating them, treating their problems and guiding them.
4- Encouraging children to make decisions, behavioral discipline and self-management of their affairs and taking responsibility for implementation and accountability for the results.
5- Encouraging children’s relationships with peers and others outside the family, especially at school and school education.
6- Encouraging children to express opinions, constructive criticism, discussion and joint dialogue with family, peers and school staff.
7- Moderation and balance in mutual relationships with children.
8- Encouraging children to solve their difficulties and problems on their own.
9- Avoiding orders and prohibitions in dealing with children, raising them and guiding them.
10- Objectively holding children accountable for behavioral results as they are observed in reality without judgments or preconceived emotional impressions.
As for the actual behaviors that the father and mother deal with their children in a fair democratic manner, they generally occur within the following dimensions:
1- Love for children. Always available to children without immediate or prior conditions, even when they make mistakes. In the current method, the father and mother separate between their duty to love their children and the children’s right to receive and experience this love, and between accountability for their mistakes and the processes of correcting these mistakes.
2- Responding to the desires and needs of children. Regular, objective and appropriate in type, degree and quality according to the children’s immediate requirements. Parents’ response to their children takes into account their individual differences and encourages self-decisions, expression, initiative and self-solutions.
3- Limits of children’s behavior. Organized and open within the required frameworks and standards, i.e. children enjoy freedom of action.. as long as they maintain the specified specifications and standards and are held accountable positively and negatively for the results.
4- Parents’ management and control of children. Indirect, while being objective and scientific, encourages initiative and self-decisions from children in behavior and accountability, and is balanced and fair, combining the interests of the family, the system and family life, and the needs and desires of children in growth, behavior and opinion.
The results of the fair democratic style on the personality and behavior of children are:
1- Behavioral discipline of children and a significant reduction in their behavioral problems.
2- Increased school achievement and strong positive tendencies towards learning, knowledge and school.
3- High ability to interact socially and balance shared social relationships with others.
4- Scarcity of their experience and suffering from depression disorders.
5- Balanced personality and social objectivity for children.
The fair democratic parenting style is considered the common educational denominator in developing children and dealing with them purposefully, as it is the most effective, balanced, fair and realistic method in raising, educating and guiding children, developing their desired personalities with maturity, forming an independent family for them, and adopting the life, social and practical roles expected by society.