The family, as is known, in normal human and social conditions, consists of a husband (father), a mother (wife), and children (sons or/and daughters). Standard specifications for the roles of these three categories appear, with the following explanations:
The role of the husband (father) in the family:
This male individual is active in family life and is practically and humanly qualified for the title of the functions of husband and father with all their psychological, social, and economic implications. His role appears in the following behaviors:
1- To be affectionate towards his wife and children, merciful to them, and fair in dealing with them.
2- To protect them from mistakes and dangers.
3- To be their guardian, and responsible for them inside and outside the family.
4- To be a productive worker, able to provide the necessary funding for the family members’ needs for survival first, such as: food, drink, clothing, housing, medicine, physical health, psychological security, safety from threats and punishment, social acceptance from family members inside (at home) and from others in the neighborhood and school outside the family, then the needs of learning, communication, free and constructive interaction with others, and self-esteem and achievement whenever he is able to do so.
5- To spend as much time as he can with them, be with them, live with them, follow their news and hopes, and support them with all the praise, encouragement, and material capabilities available to him.
6- To be a decision-maker, able to act and participate with the family in directing, managing, and continuously progressing… to achieve important goals for family life and the family’s future. That is, to be an effective and influential person in managing the family’s affairs and directing its life and future always for the better.
7- To be firm and serious when serious, cheerful and easygoing when cheerful, flexible and realistic in his interaction with family members.
8- To be a good behavioral model for his family members, of good character and not contradictory from one situation to another.
The role of the mother-wife in the family:
The mother-wife is expected to perform the following roles in the family and family life:
1- To be kind to her husband and children, merciful and compassionate towards them.
2- To be a guardian and protector of her husband, children and family, trustworthy of their needs, property and rights in their absence and presence without negligence or neglect.
3- To be strong-willed, wise and not tyrannical or authoritarian at the same time, to avoid disrupting the system and balance of family life.
4- To be available to the family and family life, not absent from it except in logically necessary cases such as work or employment, or family visits and school social activities that have justification. The absence of the mother/wife from the family leads to destabilization of the family and deprives the children of follow-up, guidance and a sense of security during their presence in the family and their school duties. It also allows the children to deviate into the pitfalls of the phone, the Internet, electronic video games and others that we will explain later.
5- To be responsible and dependable in carrying out the family’s tasks, and capable of making decisions and acting, especially in the absence of the husband/father and the older family members, as she is in their presence and with their participation as well.
6- To have a sound personality, not contradictory, honest and fair in her values, behavior and methods of dealing with the husband/father, children and others outside the family environment, thus being a role model for the family members.
7- To be elegant, decent in appearance, attractive in personality and smell.. cheerful and energetic, flexible and open, and content and realistic in her demands for her personal and family rights and duties.
Role of children in the family:
Children are expected to play the following roles in order to be active members of the family and family life:
1- To stay away from bad peers and slipping into the deviations of their gangs and gangs.. and to choose, in return, those with good morals, behavior and personality from peers for companionship, friendship, study and interaction with them.
2- To maintain their physical and psychological health by adopting healthy habits in food, body care, entertainment, daily life burdens and social relationships with others, and to stay away from smoking, alcohol, drugs and other mind-altering substances.
3- To be obedient and merciful to their fathers, mothers, brothers/sisters and relatives..
4- To be committed to the customs and traditions of the family and its goals and hopes for the present and the future.. that is, to adopt the family system and methods of dealing and life without objection or contradiction, especially at a young age. When they reach adulthood, children can modify what they want through understanding, understanding, dialogue, and exchanging logical opinions with the family.
5- To be loyal and committed emotionally and economically towards their families: father, mother, siblings, and relatives whenever necessary. Just as they took when they were young, they must give to their parents when they are adults and later on as young men and adults.
6- To persevere in work, education, and achieving useful ambitions for the future, in order to preserve:
• Raising their family and social status as individuals in the social, practical, or professional future, or a combination of them whenever possible.
• Continuing the status of their families in society: social, scientific, practical, or other possible.
• Ensuring the improvement of the family situation for the better economically, culturally, socially (classwise), or practically in a specific required field.
Considering the positive active roles suggested above for the husband, father, wife, mother, then children, family and family life, and comparing them with the actual practices of what they do in daily family life and then general social life, it is unfortunately noted that these roles are sometimes weak and distorted or sometimes non-existent in reality.
The father and/or mother spend most of their daily time outside the home with personal concerns or interests that have no justification, or within the family environment talking for long hours on the phone or electronic chat room or special websites on the Internet or watching satellite programs, or in frequent visits to acquaintances and friends.. leaving the care of the children’s needs and talking with them to the competent maid sometimes and the incompetent at many other times, without any noteworthy opportunities to talk to the children and listen to them and notice their concerns and anxiety and respond to their emotional and cognitive needs without the physical health that they can obtain on their own.. Each of them is, with all of this, the cause of the family’s misery and disputes, and the children’s rebellion and their going out to their peers for psychological compensation and as a safe haven from their family suffering.
The wife or/and mother who neglects her family duties, and invents the simplest excuses to get rid of them or not fulfill them.. starting with following up on the children during their daily family activities, preparing for their food needs and nutritional duties and general arrangement of the house.. and the wife who does not know when the husband/father and children will return from work or school, and who spends effort and time planning and inventing all possible schemes and methods to control and tyrannize the family’s life and decisions, sometimes ignoring what her legally, socially, economically and logically prescribed family role allows, is undoubtedly not qualified for the role of wife and mother that her legal, human, social and general practical family status requires.
The husband or/and father who wastes most of his personal time, apart from the daily official professional time, outside the home in cafes, parks, trips, and fun meetings with a group of acquaintances and friends, or in ongoing personal concerns, who monopolizes every small and big thing in family affairs, and deals with the children using methods of threats, intimidation, beating, deprivation, terror, or intimidation, is merciless, unkind, and unjust.. and monopolizes food, drink, sleep, clothing, rest, and health, and who is harsh with the wife and children and is stingy with them in their simplest natural needs for food, clothing, medicine, and physical health, and does not interact with them or listen to them.. Such a husband/father does not seem to lack the role prescribed for him by law and society, but rather constitutes a source of grave harm to the family and children in their lives and their progress for the future.
Children who oppose the instructions and directions of the father and/or mother, and sometimes mock them (as is observed in the teenage stage), and ignore their words or requests, and spend most of their time outside the family without prior coordination with the family or as they please in the company of a group of naughty people.. and who do not share their opinions, activities and daily routine with their siblings and parents, and do not respond to the needs of the family and help them when they notice them or ask them to do so, and do not show any noteworthy emotion when family members are sick or absent.. and who abandon their family at the first opportunity to work or become economically satisfied as a result of it, or when they marry and move to live outside the family environment, and adopt the simplest excuses to evade financial or social family duties that require their presence or help from their relatives, such children are not children in the sound family reality, and they are not only behaviorally and emotionally backward in their legal, biological, social and psychological roles, but they are also considered a source of regret and sorrow that the father, mother and siblings suffer from Other children.